If you’re like me, your friendships with your girlfriends are some of your most valued relationships. We are so blessed to have these smart, strong and talented women in our lives. I am in awe of my friends and grateful every day that they let me hang around them: My high-school pals who gratefully have allowed me to grow up and out of my geeky phase, my college roommates who know the real me but love me anyway, the moms I raised my children and many many glasses of wine with, my margarita- and book-loving co-conspirators who can smell a shoe sale from 10 miles away and the wonderful women I continually am privileged to meet and get to know. What would we do without these special people? I recently witnessed once again the healing power of friends and laughter (and shoe shopping, of course) when a friend needed our help preparing for her husband’s funeral. Read about it in my newspaper column, http://www.timesdaily.com/article/20090220/ARTICLES/902200301. And while you’re at it, you’ve got to read this wonderful piece from national columnist Sharon Randall: http://www.timesdaily.com/article/20090221/ARTICLES/902210301. It’s her birthday list of life lessons she’s learned so far. And I don’t know her, but from her list I think she’d make a good friend, too.
A lovely post, Cathy and I just loved Sharon’s observations of life so far. I think as we get older we truly appreciate how fragile and precious life is and so we strive to embrace it, improve it and find meaningful purpose – sometimes all that means is helping a friend buy the perfect shoes for her husband’s funeral. Not because she actually NEEDS the shoes but because she needed to know she would not be alone – her friends are going to be there, no matter what.
It is hard to describe how my friends support me and how we support each other. I have soul sisters who I share an intense bond with inside and out, and others who I share a strong bond with even though the surfaces of our lives and even some of our values and beliefs don’t line up. That sense of being *respected* and *loved* for who you are is such a gift.
Most of my friends are women, but I have a few male friends who have a different role in my life, who have been part of it for decades. The relationship is different, the communication less frequent, but the support is there, that sense of acceptance and shared history.
Thank you Cathy. I needed to read both of those columns today. A female cousin of mine just passed, and I also had a heart to heart with a girlfriend of mine. It all makes sense!
Thank y’all so much for the kind words. Rockync, you are exactly right about appreciating our relationships as we grow older. V-Grrrl, I love your insight into “soul sisters.” Well put! And Kathy, I am so sorry for the loss of your cousin. Our thoughts are with you.
Girlfriends are the most important family as they may be more forgiving and understanding. I cannot imagine my life without them.
You and me both, Debie! Thanks for stopping by.
There is nothing like good girlfriends!!
The girls class of 71 at Deshler still get together once a month after all these years. I myself if I’m feeling tired and low, these get togethers are a pick me up as we have a good time. The other diners may not enjoy the noise we make, but it’s all about having fun and being there for each other.
Mary — Thanks so much for stopping by and sharing your thoughts. I so appreciate that! Your high-school group sounds like when some of my friends and I get together: We’ve been kicked out of all three Casa Mexicana restaurants around here for being a bit too noisy, if you can believe that!!!
Wonderful column Cathy:)
Aww, Cath, this was great.